Protecting Intimacy in Marriage

There are some people out there that assume intimacy is limited to things in regards to sex. Though this is the most intimate thing that you can do with someone, there is more to it then just the physical act of making love with your spouse. Intimacy in marriage means so much more, and if you understand what these things are, you are less likely to do something that is going to leave your spouse feeling vulnerable or even as if they have been cheated on. The more you know, the better your marriage is going to be.

Sex is, of course, the most obvious part of intimacy in marriage. We all know that this is something that should not be shared with someone outside the relationship, but you should know that men and women can have a different viewpoint when it comes to things like that. Women are more hurt by emotional sharing rather than sex outside the marriage, but that does not mean it is okay to do. It is still unacceptable. Men, on the other hand, are going to be devastated by sexual straying. In both cases, for the sake in intimacy in marriage, just don't do it.

What some people in marriage do not realize is that intimacy in marriage is about trust - but not just about the trust that the other will not cheat. There are other things that can seem as if trust has been violated, and that can really dent intimacy in marriage. Each spouse should feel that they can tell the other anything, no matter how personal, and that other spouse will never use it against them. Even more importantly, they have to be able to trust that their spouse is not going to share these things with anyone else.

Intimacy in marriage means you are sharing with each other with total confidence that you are safe. You also have to know that you can be yourself without judgment. When it comes to choosing a partner, you should always be with someone who accepts all parts of you. You won't know that about someone until you are more comfortable in the marriage. That is why so many that marry way too early fail. They have not experienced the real parts of each other, and that makes intimacy in marriage very hard.

If you go about sharing your feelings about stresses in life or goals and dreams with someone of the opposite sex that is not your spouse, you are violating the intimacy of marriage. Your spouse should be your main sounding board, and your same sex friends and family members should be second. When you go to someone of the opposite sex for things like this, emotional affairs are going to happen. They could also lead to sex. Most fall into this without knowing it until the damage has been done. Respect the intimacy in marriage by avoiding such situations. If you are having trouble relating to your spouse and sharing, tell them that. That gives them the chance to change what may be wrong in the marriage.

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